I’ve had an overwhelming response to my articles about massage and nudity and a lot of questions about involuntary erections and ejaculations during a massage. It is one of those questions only a very few dare ask openly. To sum up what I’ve written in my previous posts and answered people who’ve mailed me.
Erections during massages happen and are quite natural. In most cases the client has no control over it at all. It is pretty easy to tell when an erection is sexually charged and most often the client is more embarrassed than the therapist about what’s happening. The same seems to be true for ejaculations and often there’s no orgasm involved at all. Women too can experience these things, though rarely is it noticeable.
I’ve been struggling to find a natural reason why these things happen that goes beyond physical touch, relaxation, erogenous and sensitive areas etc has been ruled out. I’ve had discussions with readers where I just have to admit that I can’t find the reason why an erection or ejaculation happens when it’s so strongly against the wishes and desires of the person.
Reading up on the hormone oxytocin I came across some rather interesting information. Oxytocin serves many roles and I’ll cover some of these in later articles. What had me remember my reader’s questions is that the hormone is closely tied to arousal, erection and ejaculation. It’s one of those hormones which peak during sexual activity and orgasm.
Oxytocin is also released during massage and touch when there is trust between the therapist and the client. Paul J. Zak wrote in one of his articles on oxytocin studies: “Adding massage [to an expression of trust] was like putting the human oxytocin system on steroids”
This brings me to my theory is of might what be happening during some of the involuntary erections.
When a person receives a massage and trust exist between the therapist and client, oxytocin is released into the blood. High levels of oxytocin can lead to erections and in some cases ejaculation (the hormone is needed for the contractions during an ejaculation).
If my theory is true it might explain why some people experience these situations and why nothing they try to do seems to make a difference. It might simply be that the oxytocin released because of the massage causes the erection and/or ejaculation. Something that’s completely outside the control of either therapist or client.
Not all people experience this of course, which isn’t completely odd either. Our brains are wired differently, as are the receptors for the hormone. Some people are insensitive to oxytocin as their receptors can’t quite switch off and on. Others might lack production and so on. The research into the area is still new and there’s a lot we don’t know about the hormone yet. It seems certain though that it’s a very important hormone for our wellness and health and that it influences many different aspects of our lives.
To learn more about oxytocin you can start here: