This is my last post in the “Eat, Love, Pray” massage series I have written over the last few weeks.
Massage and love go hand in hand. I am not talking about physical or familial love, the type of love you have for a spouse or child, but rather about a more universal love. Other ways to describe this love are compassion, caring, nurturing, comfort, relaxation, support, healing, and wanting to give the best to the recipient. They are all different expressions for love.
A good therapist gives love to every client. She gives care and nurturing, her intent is to help you with your healing and make you feel good.
It can be a transforming experience to feel this unconditional love from your therapist. For some it might be the first time in years that they have experienced a compassionate touch, for others they might only have experienced non-loving touches, some might just need physical closeness at this time in life.
I have several experiences with clients who reacted strongly to the love given during the massage. Tears and release of pent up emotions. The unconditional compassion and care during the treatment was the triggering factor. I have written about some of my experiences as a massage therapist, which includes emotional release.
Another important thing to factor in, is that massage also helps you to love and accept yourself. Research done by the Touch Institute and others show how important touch is for our own self-acceptance and self-love. If somebody else shows unconditional care and accept of you, it challenges your own views and promotes emotional healing. It is hard to dislike yourself when another so lovingly massages you and loves you just as you are.
Massage without love becomes mechanic and cold. The hands of the therapist might feel cold or there just seems to be some sort of distance and lack of connection between the two of you. High technical skill cannot make up for lack of true caring. At least not if you want a massage that supports the healing of your body, mind, and soul.